Xroads Teaching Blog

Take it up a Notch

2008-09-11T13:41:00.000-05:00

We have spent 5 weeks talking about seeking God through prayer. Hopefully we have been doing more than talking. Hopefully we have been talking to God himself and listening for His voice.

One way I think we seek God with our whole heart is to seek him with our whole gut. I am talking about a time of fasting. One of the simplest definitions for fasting is: A fast is a conscious, intentional decision to abstain for a time from the pleasure of eating in order to gain vital spiritual benefits.

In essence by sacrificing food (or some other pleasure) for a time you are saying to God that he is more important to you than the very food you need to sustain yourself. It’s a pretty powerful statement to make.

Just after Jesus teaches about the Lords Prayer he says, “When you fast, stop looking sad like hypocrites. They put on sad faces to make it obvious that they’re fasting. I can guarantee this truth: That will be their only reward. When you fast, wash your face and comb your hair. Then your fasting won’t be obvious. Instead, it will be obvious to your Father who is with you in private. Your Father sees what you do in private. He will reward you.” - Matthew 6:16-18

A couple things to notice here is Jesus didn’t say if you fast, he said, “When you fast”. We also know that Jesus himself fasted for forty days before beginning his ministry.

My advice to you is to definitely fast. Just start simply.

Maybe skip lunch one day a week and spend the time privately praying.
Maybe as a small group you could agree to fast a meal and pray together wherever you might be.
God might call you to longer fast as issues arise in your life or in the ministry of the church.
The most common fast is twenty-four hours. After eating dinner you don’t eat again until dinner the next night. I have done this many times and there is no doubt it helps me focus and hunger for God.
One suggestion could be that every first Wednesday you could fast all day until first Wednesday prayer. Then you could come and pray or if you need to be home you can pray together with those of us here while you are at home.

Think about the power of coming together before the Lord and seeking him as a body through prayer and fasting. What a statement of our love and need for God.

Ask any questions about fasting and I’ll get back to you.

Griff

Just Imagine...

2008-09-02T09:39:00.000-05:00

I felt excited about the response from people this weekend after being so challeged by what scripture has to say about the need for us to pray together and "seek God's face". We have about 1500 adults attend most weekends. Every year we have 156 weekend services. Do the math. Just imagine if every adult committed to praying over just one of those services a year. We would have roughly 10 people at every weekend service gathering to seek God's face and ask his power and presence upon our people. That is about as small a comitment as we could make. Even so, how do you think God might respond? It's about 10 times what we are doing now as far as gathering for intentional committed prayer over the weekend. JUST IMAGINE...

Griff

We need to talk… about us.

2008-08-10T13:58:00.000-05:00

I remember once hearing a guy say something about making love to God. My first reaction to that was, “That’s inappropriate and kind of gross.” The thought though has obviously stayed with me for several years. I guess it kind of shocked me that someone would say that about God. Maybe that was his point because it stuck with me and has made me reflect on what he said.

The more I thought about it the more it seems incredibly appropriate. The more I come to understand God, the more I see our lives are supposed to be always “making love” to him. He wants us to be passionately and fully obsessed with love for Him, from Him and through Him for others. Forget the sexual thought that “making love” brings to mind (except that God gave that to us as well as our deepest level of expressing love for the one person he intended for us to share life with and he gave it to us as an act of love that brings new life. Now I am rambling, but, “How cool is God?!”) and just think about your life being an act of love to God. That gives prayer, our constant communion with God a whole new depth and texture doesn’t it? It brings a whole new picture of living out of deep intimacy and passion with him.

Hopefully you get what I am saying. I hope you have a whole new hunger and excitement for what prayer with God can bring your life. So why don’t you stop what you are doing and talk to God about what prayer, love for Him, and His love for you all have in common. Go on, talk to Him, you need to more than you know.

Griff

Living In His Spirit

2008-07-09T15:47:00.000-05:00

From Prayer Intern Ryan:

We heard last week a little bit on the “how to” live into the lifestyle of Romans 8 by not feeding the “big dog” sin, and by feeding the little dog “our spirit, or spiritual life” to over come that sin that is hindering us. My goal is to expand on the “how to” feed our spirits in a healthy way.

The first thing I have found helpful in my personal walk is to truly picture and believe that Jesus is a man! It is possible to have an alive, loving, affectionate, passionate relationship with the man Jesus. An easy way to do this would be to open up Revelation 4 and read it a few times and then just sit, close your eyes and picture Jesus on the throne. Once you get your mind clear begin to speak with that man. He wants to talk with you more then you want to talk with him. I have recently found myself sitting and listening/ gazing more then I talk. About 15-25% of my prayer time I actually talk. The rest of the time I just sit in the presence of God and slowly but surely the very presence of God begins to transform you!

Now this doesn’t happen over night. It takes a long time to develop this habit. I still become unfocused every 1-2 minutes thinking about what I need to do and I have to refocus myself. Jesus is not concerned about the amount or effectiveness of the time. He is filled with joy because deep down we want to spend time with Him. All He asks of us is that we would continue to try and spend time with Him. If we put the time in He will give us the power to stay focused on him and live a life lead by His Spirit! (Romans 8)

Ryan

No Condemnation... How's it feel?

2008-07-03T16:35:00.000-05:00

So, I am wondering how sitting in Romans 8 is going for you? Have you thought about the chains this week? Have you picked them up without realizing it? How is your study going?

The feedback has been great I hope and expect that God has something good for you in the next few weeks of study.

I would invite you to share your reflections on the readings each week. I think God will teach us things through each other. Don’t be shy, bring it.

Griff

Where Ever We Find Ourselves

2008-06-27T11:05:00.000-05:00

There are two things that strike me about Glen’s message last week.

The first is how easily some of us choose to flee difficulty without thinking though the consequences. Some of us find ourselves facing marital difficulty and our first desire is to get out. We think it will be better and easier. I often sit with people who are contemplating this reality. I try to get them to think down that path a while. One thing that every divorced or blended family will tell you is that there is never a major holiday that doesn’t bear some scar of the broken family. Every Thanksgiving and Christmas, etc. there is the tension about who will be where when. That’s life long, that’s a big deal.

The other thing that struck me is no matter what life hands us or that we create, it’s in our best interest to make the best of our circumstance; to talk out issues, to agree to work together, to resolve and not suppress issues. My wife and I had a long but good talk about an issue we are facing. I wouldn’t put it on the top of the fun to do things list but I was grateful for her willingness to broach it with me and her grace to listen.

Where ever you are in life, what ever life has handed you, embrace it and live up!

Griff

Getting It Right

2008-06-18T15:12:00.002-05:00

I have to be honest and it probably won’t surprise any of you but I felt myself well up with emotion several times on Sunday during Glen’s message. When I heard the things that wives were saying about their husbands who were getting it right, something touched me deep inside.

I know, as a man, respect is a huge motivator. When I get anything right and my wife notices and then verbalizes it back to me; WOW! You would have thought I just got the Nobel Peace Prize. I also think as men that is what we are all looking for; to be valued and respected. The reality is we end up looking for it in different places. If we don’t find it at home, or we are too wounded to experience it at home, or we have seen other role models seek it in different ways it can lead to fruitless and destructive searches.

I was appreciative of the encouragement and challenge to “get it right” as a Dad. A word of advice for kids or wives who are reading this: Dad’s need your respect. They live by it and for it. They thrive on it. I don’t know if you have a good or bad relationship with your dad but find something you do and can respect about him and let him know. Write a note, tell him face to face, or get a tattoo; just make sure he knows you respect him. If you do it often enough you will see a new life arise inside him. Before you know it there will be even more you respect about him.

Griff

Relationally Challenged Yet?

2008-06-11T15:26:00.000-05:00

It’s been a few weeks since I have “reflected” on the weekend teaching, sorry for my absence.

One thing that has been challenging about this series is that every week we are missing a group of people: dating/married/single/older/younger/ etc. What has surprised me though, is how personally challenged I (and I think everyone else) have been anyway, even when it isn’t directed at me.

Our lives touch and intersect all the time. We really don’t live in a vacuum. It’s really not God’s intention that we do. Every week I am taught in a very direct or indirect way something about myself. I am also given pause for reflection of other people’s relational situations.

If anyone wants to share their direct or indirect learning, feel free.

I want to include a book that I wanted to share the week I taught on dating. It’s simply called “Boundaries in Dating.” I think it will be helpful if that is your world right now. I also want to say that it is in a series of “Boundaries” books that touch just about everyone’s life. They have Boundaries in Marriage, Boundaries with Your Kids, they even have Boundaries with Pets. Just kidding about that one, I think it’s coming out next year.

Seriously, if you have a relational issue you might want to check out one of the corresponding boundary books, or anything by the authors Cloud and Townsend.

I’ll blog at you next week. I promise.

Griff

Remembering Moms

2008-05-15T14:50:00.000-05:00

I had this story sent to me and thought it was thought provoking following Mother's Day.

After many long months of cold and winter, we are finally coming up to spring and BBQ season. Therefore, it is important to refresh your memory on the etiquette of this outdoor cooking ritual, as it's the only type of cooking a real man will do, probably because there is an element of danger involved. When a man volunteers to do the BBQ, the following chain of events is put into motion:
Routine:
1. The woman buys the food.
2. The woman makes a salad, prepares vegetables, and makes dessert.
3. The woman prepares the meat for cooking, places it on a tray along with the necessary cooking utensils and sauces, and takes it to the man who is lounging beside the grill - drink in hand.
Here comes the important part:
4. THE MAN PLACES THE MEAT ON THE GRILL More routine:
5. The woman goes inside to organize the plates and cutlery.
6. The woman comes out to tell the man that the meat is burning. He thanks her and asks if she will bringanother drink while he deals with the situation.
Important again:
7. THE MAN TAKES THE MEAT OFF THE GRILL AND HANDS IT TO THE WOMAN.
More routine:
8. The woman prepares the plates, salad, bread, utensils, napkins, sauces and brings them to the table.
9. After eating, the woman clears the table and does the dishes.
And most important of all:
10. Everyone PRAISES THE MAN and THANKS HIM for his cooking efforts.
11. The man asks the woman how she enjoyed 'her night off' and, upon seeing her annoyed reaction, concludes that there's just no pleasing some women!

Guys, when it's true it's best to just laugh with them.

Griff

Parenting Parents

2008-05-07T08:41:00.000-05:00

This issue of parenting our parents was deeply personal for some of us. For others it is definately something we need to be thinking about and possibly working on to prepare for the future. Glen passed on these obesrvations and suggestions:

It is important that the family works together on what is best for the aging parents. This is not a time for sibling rivalry or turf wars. The issue is what is best for the aging parent.

Support is a group effort. It may not take a village, but it does take a community. Prayers and questions of concern mean so much.

Additional tasks given by family members far away create great frustration because most of those providing the care are already overwhelmed. If you cannot do it yourself, don’t suggest it.

Carol Abaya at http://www.sandwichgeneration.com/ is a good resource for parenting your parents.

God’s promise has great meaning as we age. It would be a good one to memorize or place in prominent location as a reminder. Isaiah 46:4 (God’s Word Translation) Even when you're old, I'll take care of you. Even when your hair turns gray, I'll support you. I made you and will continue to care for you. I'll support you and save you.

Griff

Spiritually Green?

2008-05-04T10:43:00.000-05:00

I hate to admit this about myself but I have been pretty skeptical and critical when it comes to environmental issues. I have probably been sort of a jerk about the issue at times (just ask my wife). Honestly, I just didn't care that much about it. If it was super easy to do something I would but if it took any effort on my part I didn't care enough to act.

I am not sure what you thought about Matthew Sleeth's story but personally I was challenged in a new way. I have never thought about the environment in light of the two greatest commandments. How can I love God more and how can I show my neighbor love. Appreciating and caring for the environment from that perspective makes so much more sense and gives me motivation I have never had before.

I really appreciated how Matthew the issue a spiritual one and kept it from being political at the same time. I appreciate that he is willing to live into what he believes in ways that are practical and simple.

I know we are making some changes in our household. I hope you are in yours. In the end it is a personal issue that has profound effects on the world around you. I hope you let those questions lead you. Will this show love for God (and what he has given me), and will this show love for my neighbor (and future generations).

So what kinds of things have you decided to do?

Why Win, If You Can Dance?

2008-04-23T07:07:00.000-05:00

The old saying goes, “Win a soul for Jesus.” Paul used that type of language several times in the writing of scripture but I’m not sure it means the quite the same thing people do today. I think it feels a lot different now than it did then. Someone said, “If you win me for Jesus that feels like I lose.”

We know that is not the truth at all but it’s interesting that someone would feel that way. What is it about someone’s evangelistic approach that would make someone feel like they lose if they agree? Maybe it’s what they say, but I have a feeling it’s about more of how they say it.

Brian McLaren described a different way we might approach sharing the message of Jesus. He said that the “Gospel” (the good news) of Jesus is like beautiful music to those that know it. It picks up our spirit and carries us along in the dance of life. Why not invite others to dance with us, to hear and understand the music for their lives. Sure, some toes might occasionally be stepped on in the process but who needs to win and lose when instead we can learn to dance together.

Don’t look at your “non-church-going” friends as projects, look at them as dance partners.

Griff

Intellectual Christianity

2008-04-10T14:26:00.000-05:00

What do we have to know to be a genuine Christ follower? What must we do or what must we experience? How do we know if we are or not?

There are many people who know about Jesus, about Christianity, about the bible. Does that mean they are Christ followers? It’s interesting that some of the most knowledgeable people in Jesus day, some of the most righteous by the standards of the law (the spiritual rule book) seemed to be the furthest from what Jesus was trying to promote and teach. They didn’t like him and he was quite critical of their brand of spirituality.

Here’s the irony. Jesus seemed to have no problem connecting with the “less-than-righteous.” There seemed to be a quick connect with what he was teaching and the brand of spirituality that he was selling. How was it that people who had devoted their whole lives to God could get it so wrong and those who lived opposed to God could get it so quickly.

I like what author John Ortberg said, “The righteous were more damaged by their righteousness than the sinners were by their sin.”

Put that in your pipe and smoke it.

Griff

Quitting Religion

2008-04-04T11:16:00.002-05:00

We started a series last week that could be considered controversial. What do we mean by “Quitting Church?” We have always said Christianity is more than just going to church. That’s not controversial. So what do we mean my quitting church? We mean to quit playing church, to realize it’s about a lot more than wearing a name and attending a service. At the heart of it all, Christianity has nothing to do with “religion.” Check out a quote by John Fischer from an article called Bowing to the coffee god.

“Religion is ritual, habit, doing certain things to get certain results, and pleasing the acceptable god by bowing, scraping and doing all the necessary penance required by that god to please Him/Her/it. I have been known to bow and scrape to the coffee god, but thankfully, not the real God, because the real God does not require this.”

Do you catch his drift? What you do think?

Griff

Believe

2008-03-27T10:19:00.000-05:00

I hope you had a good Easter. More than that I hope you had a thoughtful Easter. We always harp that we don’t focus enough at Christmas time but at least we are engaged in Christmas. There is not the same hoop-la at Easter so it seems to come and go – fast!

I know I intended to sit and watch “The Passion” again this year, but with little kids and all the hectic things of life it didn’t get done. It was good to be able to sit and think about why we believe and what a difference it makes in our life when we “live into” that belief.

We look at people in scripture and history and see the differences it made in their life when they went from disbelief to belief. It is encouraging and even exciting to see what God does in other peoples life but what about yours? What difference has believing made in your life? Are you living into that belief or is it a separate part of who you are? What could living into your belief bring to your life?

Stop and think about your faith and belief.

What has it brought? What more could it bring?

Happy "post" Easter

Griff

Discipline of Celebration?or Celebration of Discipline?

2008-03-19T12:27:00.000-05:00

It really is a wierd to have both words in a phrase.

As I sat and listened to Glen's message on Sunday I was struck by how much sense it really makes.

In one way we need to remember (discipline ourselves) to realize how much we have to celebrate in Christ. How HUGE a difference he makes in our life no matter what we are going through or what trial we are facing. His victory that we will celebrate this Sunday should bring perspective every day we live.

In another way all together, we need to see the celebration that comes out of being like Jesus, imitating who he is and how he lived through the power of his Spirit living within us. Glen made the statement "Celebration without regrets." Oh how close to home and how true that is for us. What else in life can bring such sweet celebration as leaning into and learning through his Spirit how to live more like him?

It's only through Jesus we can do that.

What does a life of true "regret-less" celebration look like for you? How are you trying to live into that? What celebration has "imitating" Jesus brought to your life?

Griff

Into the Wild of Simplicity

2008-03-12T08:44:00.000-05:00

As I listened to Glen’s message on Sunday I couldn’t help but think about a movie my wife and I watched that week called, “Into the Wild”. We watched the movie because my wife and a friend had read the book and were fascinated by it. After graduating from Emory University in 1992, top student and athlete Christopher McCandless (Emile Hirsch in the movie) abandons his possessions, gave his entire $24,000 savings to charity and hitchhiked to Alaska to live in the wilderness. Some called him a hero and some called him a selfish idiot.

I was fascinated by this story because I saw that he was searching for something other than what the world, and in particular materialistic America, had to offer him. The story depicts him as disgusted by his parents pursuit of the American dream and how neglected he was because of their fierce pursuit of wealth.

I would recommend the movie for the sake of the message (be careful there is some nudity and language) and I’m sure my wife would recommend the book. I think the story is tragic because there are so many of us that know what he was looking for but couldn’t seem to find. Maybe it’s because many of us don’t live it out very well. He came across some Christians in his journey but they couldn’t or didn’t compel him to understand the beauty and freedom of a life TRULY GIVEN to God. This, I think, is the definition of what simplicity really is: To fully live for God. Anything else is what Glen described as duplicity.

How duplicitous are we, really? It is such a tough thing to measure. We of course need things and other relationships and pursuits in life to function. So, how do we know if we are living these things out in a way that honors a simple life lived for God or a duplicitous life that is really for our pursuits and we’ve allowed God to be a part? There is a HUGE difference in between the two.

I am glad we chose to discuss this spiritual practice of simplicity. I am convicted it is one we all need to practice more diligently. If we do, we will know what we are truly living for and be free of the things that ensnare us. These things subtly bring the bondage and complexity of duplicity to our lives. Within such bondage we can’t fully live for and experience God in our lives.

Your thoughts?

Griff

Weekend Service Prayer

2008-03-04T11:29:00.000-05:00

Several of you have asked about the prayer we used this weekend. Here it is, I hope it moves you and convicts you in ways that encourage you to imitate Jesus.

-From A Diary of Private Prayer by John Baillie

Holy God, I grieve and lament before thee that I am still so prone to sin and so little inclined to obedience:
So much attached to the pleasure of sense, so negligent of things spiritual:
So prompt to gratify my body, so slow to nourish my soul:
So greedy for present delight, so indifferent to lasting blessedness:
So fond of idleness, so indisposed for labor:
So soon at play, so late at prayer:
So brisk in the service of self, so slack in the service of others:
So eager to get, so reluctant to give:
So lofty in my profession, so low in my practice:
So full of good intentions, so backward to fulfill them:
So severe with my neighbors, so indulgent with myself:
So eager to find fault, so resentful at being found fault with:
So little able for great tasks, so discontented with small ones;
So weak in adversity, so swollen and self-satisfied in prosperity:
So helpless apart form thee, and yet so little willing to be bound to thee.

O merciful heart of God, grant me yet again thy forgiveness. Hear my sorrowful tale and in thy great mercy blot it out from the book of thy remembrance. Give me faith so to lay hold of thine own holiness and so to rejoice in the righteousness of Christ my Savior that, resting on his merits rather than on my own, I may more and more become conformed to his likeness, my will becoming one with his in obedience to thine. All this I ask for his holy name’s sake. Amen.

Keep leaning into Jesus,

Griff

Constant Connection & Transformation

2008-03-02T20:36:00.000-05:00

Is prayer really constant connection with God? Is prayer like being able to text God? Can I carry a piece of glass and remember to be in communication with God?

This might be a really different way to think about prayer but maybe that’s exactly what we need. We are talking about the need to “Imitate” Jesus in order to experience the transformation we so desperately long for. What about you? How transformed have you been in your journey with God? I’d like to make a bet. I bet you, the transformation was tied to times spent in prayer. Am I right? If you can’t say you’ve experienced any real transformation I’d also bet you’ve never taken prayer seriously as a way of “constant connection” with God. Am I right?

It’s really not that I am that smart. (I know I don’t have to convince you of this.) I think it’s a simple thing that we fail to live into. Jesus and the followers of Jesus in scripture were SERIOUS pray-ers. God showed up and did some pretty huge, miraculous, transformational things. Prayer that calls out to God and asks for His will to happen by people with open and surrendered hearts is a crazy thing. Go ahead. I DARE YOU! Start constant connection and ask for His will. When you get an idea of what that is, pray like mad for it in faith and then stand back and be amazed at what He does.

Any one have a story they’d like to share. I prayed once for six months that God would humble me. (I know that was stupid, but not really.) He answered it for 18 months with 3 tough blows to my ego and identity. That set me up for 18 months of peace and prosperity to be followed by another 2 years of extreme humbling and difficulty. Now again, I am experiencing some great peace. God, you can stop answering that prayer at least for now. The cool thing is the greatest transformation in my life came in those difficult and humbling times. Okay, enough about me.

Let’s hear your constant connection transformation stories.

Silence Revisited

2008-03-02T20:06:00.000-05:00

Several of you have asked about the text on the video during our "Silence and Solitude Experiment" a couple weeks ago. Go ahead and use this as a time of silence and let me know what happens. Shhh...

Why is silence so hard to deal with?

183 million people are regularly exposed to noise levels labeled as excessive by the Environmental Protection Agency.

Do you have a cell phone? A pager? Voice-mail?

Do you have a cell phone with voice-mail and e-mail?

Do you have a TV? More than 1 TV?

Do you have a radio on all day? On at work, in the car, at home?

Is there such a thing as visual noise?

Do you wish there were more billboards along the roads you drive?

Do we have enough strip malls yet?

Do you feel like God is distant?

Do you wish God’s voice would be louder in your life?

Is there a connection between the amount of noise in our lives and our inability to hear God?

SUV’s and minivans now come with separate CD and DVD systems for the backseats.

You can buy wired clothing now. Coats and jackets equipped with cell phones and MP3 players.

Try this.

Make yourself comfortable in your chair and begin breathing slowly as you read.

Then Moses and the priests, who are Levites, said to all Israel, “Be silent, Oh Israel, and listen!” _Deuteronomy 27:9

Search your hearts and be silent. _Pslams 4:4

But the Lord is in His holy temple: Let all the earth be silent before Him.
_Habakkuk 2:20

Come to me, all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest.
_Jesus in Matthew 11

If I am not still, and if I don’t listen, how is Jesus going to give me rest?

Have you spent the same amount of time worrying and talking about your difficult, confusing situations as you have spent in silence, listening to what God might have to say?

Why is talking so much easier than listening?

But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed. _Luke 5:16

These were regular disciplines Jesus had. Silence. Solitude.

When was the last time you were in a solitary place?

What is it about silence that is so difficult?

Why is it easier to surround myself with noise and keep moving than to stop, be silent and listen?

How much noise do I voluntarily subject myself to?

Does my schedule, my time, my life look like that of a person who wants to hear God’s voice?

Maybe the healing and guidance we desperately need is not going to come from one more meeting or therapy session or sermon or self-help book but from simply listening for the voice of God.

Do you really believe that God’s voice is more interesting than the voices around you?

Is it possible that you have been searching for God in the winds, the earthquakes, and fires and He is waiting to speak to you in the silence? Silence.

Quiet: A Love / Hate Relationship

2008-02-18T17:19:00.001-05:00

I used to really hate to sit in silence, to be alone. I don’t think it was fear as much as it just wasn’t my nature. I don’t hate it anymore because I now understand its benefits and its power. I still don’t ever look forward to it. I always love it though when it’s over. Not because it’s over, but because it’s always good.

It’s often good for different reasons.

Sometimes it’s just because I was quiet and thoughtful.

Sometimes it’s because I accomplished something that was a healthy balance to my normal pace.

Sometimes I hear the voice of God. I see something clearly for the first time. I recognize something about myself. Sometimes it’s something good. Sometimes it’s something ugly that I see needs to change. The cool part is when I am quiet and that happens, I’m already with the One whose help I need. So I ask and know that I am heard.

You may hate being quiet and alone but you ought to give it a try. If you have, tell me what happened.

I know there are those out there that actually REALLY look forward to being quiet and alone. I wonder what happens in that time for you.

Griff

Dietrich Bonhoeffer - The Word in the Heart

2008-02-13T11:27:00.000-05:00

A friend sent me this quote. I think it is a great followup to this weekend.

"I do not treasure God's promise in my understanding but in my heart. It is not to be analyzed by my intellect, but to be pondered in my heart... Therefore, it is never sufficient simply to have read God's Word. It must penetrate deep within us, dwell in us, like the Holy of Holies in the Sanctuary, so that we do not sin in thought, word or deed." - Dietrich Bonhoeffer

So how is it going with our attempts to imitate Jesus (the word in the flesh)? Anything hitting home? Please share for our mutual encouragement that God does speak through His Word.

Griff

One more thought...

2008-02-05T08:59:00.000-05:00

As a closing thought to this heaven series, let's read another C.S. Lewis quote.

"If you read history you will find that the Christians who did the most for the present world were precisely those who thought most about the next. It is since Christians have laregly ceased to think of the other world that they have become so ineffective in this." - C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

What will you do with your new understanding?

Griff

One More Question…

2008-02-05T08:46:00.000-05:00

One question that we didn’t get to this last weekend was as follows:

How do the things we learn here on earth translate when we enter heaven? Will our knowledge transcend from this life to the next? Do things like technology have a place in heaven?

Again a very thought provoking question. So here are some thoughts.
Since learning is such a huge part of our enjoyment in this life, why wouldn’t it translate into heaven? We have seen that there is a sense of continuity from this life to eternity. Why not the things we have learned in this life, especially when they have to do with the talents and gifts God has given us to honor him?

Colossians 3:23-24 says, “Whatever you do, do it wholeheartedly as though you were working for your real master and not merely for humans. You know that your real master will give you an inheritance as your reward. It is Christ, your real master, whom you are serving.” Why wouldn’t the things we have and learned and worked at in this life cease to be honoring to God in heaven?

Like Adam and Eve were given dominion in the garden, scripture ways we will also “reign with God” in heaven. (Rev. 5:10 – one of many examples). In many ways ruling over something means bringing order and structure. Technology and many other things could be involved with that. Why not, especially if they bring glory to God?

Just think about what technology in heaven could look like. If our brains are working at 100% (they say we only use 10% of their capacity now) in conjunction with other brilliant people without any jealousy or rivalry, no competition or secrets; it could be amazing. Wow! The wonders of this world could look like preschool projects in comparison.

Chew on that. What do you think? (I think the Sci-Fi geeks like me love this stuff. Any one want to bring up space travel in heaven? I dare you!)

Griff

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The Weight/Wait Of It All

2008-01-27T16:22:00.000-05:00

I listened today as Glen very clearly presented the offer that God has made to us.

I thought about the excuses that many of us make to avoid the issue. Who are we fooling?

Check out 2 Peter 3:9-10 - The Lord isn’t really being slow about his promise, as some people think. No, he is being patient for your sake. He does not want anyone to be destroyed, but wants everyone to repent. But the day of the Lord will come as unexpectedly as a thief.

It’s all been done for us! Romans 6:22-23 - But now you are free from the power of sin and have become slaves of God. Now you do those things that lead to holiness and result in eternal life. For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord.

Why do people hesitate? What was the concern that held you back, that might still hold you back?

Let’s discuss it. Some concerns are very legitimate, so put yours (old or present) out there. Maybe it will help someone else.

Griff

Who will we be most excited to see in Heaven?

2008-01-23T16:46:00.000-05:00

I don’t know if you were there for the service this last weekend, but I was struck by the “Gladiator” video clip that was followed up with the Eric Clapton song “Tears in Heaven”. All kinds of thoughts of friends and family were running though my head. I was ready to listen to what Glen had to say.

I think we would all agree that knowing our loved ones and having some sort of continuum from this life to the next was very encouraging and comforting. BUT, let me ask a question. How do you think those relationships will change in light of God’s very presence and the primacy of our relationship to him in heaven? Most of us would admit that here, on this fallen earth, we have the relationships wrongly switched. Our family can take priority over our relationship with God; maybe not in word, but often times in our thoughts and time allocation. So when we stand in the very presence of God, how might that change our connections or concerns with our loved ones in this world?

I have a feeling that our perspective is pretty skewed here on this earth. Think about this in light of who we really are (God’s creation and children) and the reality that we will be in God's very presence in heaven.

Food for thought and fodder,
Griff

Let's Get Physical... in Heaven of course.

2008-01-13T17:30:00.000-05:00

We will forever enjoy the perfected goodness of this life, without the curse or effect of sin, and do so in the indescribable and unfathomable presence of our loving God.

So what part of that statement was most surprising to you? What kind of thoughts or insight would you add to that?

> The first part we discussed was, “We will forever enjoy the perfected goodness of this life”. We basically said that in some bodily form (1 Cor. 15:20-24, 35-58) we would experience the New Heaven and New Earth in ways that are far beyond our experiences here.
Also check out some of these references to Jesus in his “resurrected body.” Luke 24:13-53, John 20:11-30, 21:1-23 Any thoughts on how our resurrected bodies might be different?

> The second was, “without the curse or effect of sin,” Just think about the fact that most likely only Adam and Eve alone experienced this earth without the curse of sin. In what ways might the lack of the curse effect us and the new earth?

> Thirdly we tried to get our minds around what the full presence of our loving God might be like. To be honest, it’s kind of scary to me even though I know through Christ there is no need to fear. Scripture tell us his radiant presence will be all the light we need in heaven! Whoa! What thoughts come to you mind when thinking about being in His presence?

Don’t forget it’s not too late to throw a heaven question into the teaching team hat. Email me at gray@xroadschurch.org. Or, you can just post them on the blog for all to see.

I’ll be checking in this week. Just a personal note, my family finally moved down this weekend, YEAH! So for the most part we will be here all the time now. We’ll have to move our belongings at the end of the month but it is great to just be here.

Thanks,
Griff

Hope of Heaven???

2008-01-06T11:37:00.000-05:00

So how much time do we spend thinking about heaven? (How many times a week do you really ponder it?)

What do we really know about heaven? (Are there really pearly gates and a cloud nine? Do we become angels?)

Missy did a great job opening up this issue that I think we would all agree is pretty important, but that we don’t seem to talk much about. If you are a believer in Christ, you at least hope you are going to heaven, but you may not know what that really entails or if you are sure you’ve even made it in.

Missy shared that for much of her life she has thought heaven was probably pretty boring but better than eternal punishment and separation from God. Does that resonate with anyone? Is it really just singing and clouds for eternity?

So what are your thoughts and visions about what heaven is going to be like? Describe your thoughts to us.

Did you realize there is a “Present Heaven” but that there will also be a “New Heaven & New Earth”?

Most importantly out of this study might be the question, “How does a better understanding and ‘HOPE’ of heaven affect the way we live today?”

If you have a specific question you would like the teaching team to address on our Q & A weekend email me at: gray@xroadschurch.org

I’m looking forward to some interesting dialogue!

Griff

Now What?

2007-12-16T18:40:00.000-05:00

Okay, we've re-thought what Christmas is all about. We have been challenged to spend less for us, so that we can invest in "heavenly things." So how do we "GIVE MORE?"

Glen spoke a lot this week about the foundational reality that Christmas, by it's very meaning and nature, is relational. It was all about God providing relationship with Him again through the gift of his Son. By giving us His Son we can know more about who God is. We got to see Him in the flesh. Now we have a much clearer understanding of who God is for the sake of relationship with Him.

So a couple questions I want to ask:

1. How do you give a "relational gift?" One thing we have done in our family, especially on Mother's, Father's, and Valentine's days are to give "With You" coupons. They say things like, "Redeem for One Night Out with Dad" or, "Good for a 10 minute back rub." How have you found ways to give of your self relationally?

2. Does it still look like or feel like a cop out? If you give someone a relational gift are you afraid they are going to think you are cheap? I guess the other question is, "Do you care at this point what they think or are you willing to break the materialistic mold and just do it because you feel like it's right?

Bring it! What do you think?

Griff

Ooouuch!?

2007-12-09T16:52:00.000-05:00

I think I stepped on some toes today including mine. It’s tough for us anytime we challenge the status quo. For our culture the status quo is to spend A LOT at Christmas time. I think the original motive was and is still good but somehow we have become like a runaway train out of control. I wonder how it went from giving simple, meaningful and many times needed gifts to people you love in the spirit of sharing and generosity to an excessive and materialistic stuff exchange with people you love but who already have most everything they need and want? (Sorry, that’s got to be a run on sentence).

In case you weren’t there we read a story from Little House on the Prairie about the incredible excitement over a few simple things like a cake, candy, a cup and a penny. I don’t know if we can ever get back there. We just don’t live in that place. But, other people do.

I think its hard any time you go against the flow of what most of our culture does. I don’t think we want to be weird or seem like joy killers. Isn't that the point though? We want there to be more joy that has somehow seemed to escaped us in all the wrapping and ribbon and plastic. What kind of response did you have to the message this weekend? Did it spark an idea in you? Did you feel like I was way off base? Weigh in and tell us what you think God wants us to do with this whole “spend less to invest more” mentality.

Griff

Seeing Christmas from the "Other Side"

2007-12-02T15:44:00.000-05:00

It struck me this weekend to think about just sinful my life has been. We don't like to think about it but that reality is always lurking in our subconscious. We have become very good at avoiding it. We just think about something else or look for someone that is a worse sinner (like there is such a thing) than us and that somehow makes us feel better.

It's kind of weird to think about our sinfulness when talking about Christmas. It doesn't seem to fit "the season." It's even stranger to think about a baby being born to die; for me. How is it right for a baby to be given to remedy that deeply shameful part of who I am? I guess it's not right, it's love.

I know it's not a good thing to focus too much on our sin. After all, because of Jesus, it no longer has any part in our identity. The bible calls us saints more than sinners. However, I do think it is good to consider how deep our sin can go and just what God did for us in giving us a Savior Child. If we lived out of that gratitude it would probably change much of the way we lived. What do you think that would look like? Just think how our lives, lived from this deep gratitude, might touch a watching world.

Your thoughts?

Griff's Thoughts on Christmas

2007-11-27T16:54:00.000-05:00

Another Christmas season is upon us. For many of us, it really is a special time of year that is unique to any other. I know my wife turns into a kid at heart and loves all the great stuff that makes up the Christmas season. One of our favorite things to do every year is go to a Christmas tree farm, pick out a live tree and cut it down ourselves. One of the farms we have found has free hot chocolate and live reindeer! Does it get any better than that? (I guess maybe free tress?) There are all kinds of great traditions and memories that many of us love to revel in through this season and it’s always sad to us when it’s over.

Even though we love Christmas as much as we always have, it’s interesting that we have gone through some changes in how we choose to celebrate Christmas. In the last couple years we have gone through some steps to simplify and focus the way we celebrate. Some of our attempts have been better and more meaningful than others but all in all it has been a good exercise this think through how we go about celebrating the birth of Christ.

In our upcoming series we are going to ask you to “Re-Think Christmas.” Maybe that is a new thought for some of you. Maybe for others it isn’t new at all. What are your thoughts about the way we have come “as Americans” to celebrate Christmas? How have you already, in years past, begun to “Re-Think Christmas?”

Staying Married

2007-10-30T13:08:00.000-05:00

In January my (Lynn Buckles) parents will celebrate their 54th wedding anniversary. They have taught me a lot about faithfulness, perseverance, and commitment. Three years ago my dad had a major stroke and last year was diagnosed with terminal cancer. My mom has been his primary care taker and that has not been easy. The phrase “for better or for worse” takes on new meaning as I watch her care for him without any expectation that he can reciprocate. In his message on staying married Glen said “staying married is about commitment and dogged determination to fight for the marriage, not each other. It is finishing what you started. The success doesn’t rely on everybody’s being compatible or happy or a champ in the sack. The people who stay married are the people who won’t consider divorce.”

Those are great words to live by and I am thankful my parents have been a good model of that to me as I continually learn to faithfully love my wife, Janene (27 years)!

Think about this question: How secure would it make you feel to know that your partner was committed to you no matter what?

NO Debt Whatsoever

2007-10-19T13:48:00.000-05:00

Some of my fondest memories come from when I was growing up. Two of the greatest influences in my life were my grandad and my grandmother. They lived on a little farm in Ensor, KY (never heard of it have you?) where they had their own garden, grew tobacco, and raised a small amount of cattle. It seemed so simple to me. I'm sure there were a lot of struggles, but as a kid, I just wasn't aware of many of them.

One of the best things I learned from them was the discipline of saving money. They built their own house with the help of neighbors and family, paid for their cars with cash, and had absolutely NO debt whatsoever. I understand that times are different now, but I learned a lot from them and how they managed their time and money.

This weekend we will look at the subject of thriftiness. What would our grandparents say about the way that we handle money - credit card debt, student loans, wants vs. needs, instant gratification, home equity lines of credit? If you get a chance, read Matthew 6:25-34 and Proverbs 22:7. If there is some financial wisdom that you remember from your grandparents or an example of their thriftiness, talk about it in the comment section.

Let's Stay In Touch...

2007-10-09T09:46:00.000-05:00

"It feels kind of surreal."

That's what I've been saying for the last week or so and it still rings true.

Although my time at Crossroads is officially over, I'll always count myself a part of this family.

Thanks again for allowing us to call this community home. You have truly blessed us. In my 15 years of working for churches, I've never been around better leadership, staff and people. Crossroads is the healthiest church I've ever been a part of. Now, my job is to replicate that health in Raleigh.

I appreciate all of you who took the time to say goodbye this past weekend. Many of you asked how to keep up with us in the future. Here are a few ideas:

You can email Fred at: fredsturner@gmail.com
I will check my church address for a little while longer, but go ahead and switch over now.

Although this Teaching Blog will continue, this will be my last post here.
You can find my personal blog HERE. (www.justanotherfred.blogspot.com) You can subscribe and receive updates via email when I post if you'd like.

I'll be serving with Connections Church in Raleigh. Find them online HERE.
Drop by to see what's happening in the days ahead with our new community.

Once again, thanks for letting us into your lives for the last four years. We are definitely the better for it!

Weekend Prep

2007-10-04T09:46:00.000-05:00

This weekend we'll bring the "Yeah YOU" series to a close with a teaching conversation around the theme that "Yeah YOU Can Keep Moving".

We'll be looking at a couple of stories from Mark 6:1-13. Check them out before then if you get the chance. You may want to give them a read in the Message paraphrase for a fresh take. Find it HERE.

Front Porch Wisdom...

2007-10-02T10:12:00.000-05:00

Have you ever marveled at the stuff people could do a couple of generations ago? For the most part, our grandparents knew how to build houses, fix cars, grow food, live within their means, be neighborly, stay married, raise kids- and a hundred other things that seem so challenging today.

We live with more information and conveniences than ever- but is life really better today? Are we any better at living it? While we can’t recreate the “good old days”, we could stand to grab some of the timeless wisdom that blessed and sustained those who came before us. Our next teaching series will focus on some of the biblical values and life skills that seemed more widespread a couple of generations ago.

To get the ball rolling, we'd love to hear from you about the "front porch wisdom" you've gotten from your grandparents, older relatives, mentors, etc.

Are there any pieces of advice you refer back to time and again?

Any character traits you've tried to emulate?

Any fond memories or stories of the wise sages in your life that you reach back to for inspiration?

How Was Your Experience...

2007-10-01T12:50:00.000-05:00

...this past weekend with Pastor Felix Williams and the rest of the folks from Mt. Calvary leading our weekend services?

How do you feel about being a part of a church that is willing to raise the topic of and begin to engage in racial reconciliation?

Changing the World

2007-09-24T08:30:00.000-05:00

Just came across this quote:

"You begin saving the world by saving one man at a time; all else is grandiose romanticism or politics." - Charles Bukowski

Does this ring true for you?

Why or why not?

Is It Even Possible???

2007-09-19T14:24:00.000-05:00

Wow. Great discussion on the last post. When I look at the types of things we all want to change about this world, it makes me wonder if change is even possible.

A couple of us mentioned that what we want to change is ourselves and we can't even seem to get that done.

What do you think? Can people like us change the world?

If not- why not?

If yes- how?

Yeah, YOU Can Change The World...

2007-09-18T07:21:00.000-05:00

This weekend we'll conclude the "Yeah YOU" series with the idea that each of us can make an impact on this world.

If that's really true- and you had the power to change one thing about this world, what would it be?

Resources from this weekend

2007-09-16T09:14:00.000-05:00

This weekend we explored the idea that God can use any of us (YEAH YOU) to help someone else on their journey with/towards God.

We tried to take some cues from Philip in Acts 8:26-40: Making ourselves available to others, asking questions and listening, engaging in dialogue-not debate, etc.

We watched Philip's friend- the Ethiopian- respond to God and be baptized as a sign of his desire to follow Jesus. We also got to see a video of some recent baptisms of folks within the Crossroads' community.

If you'd like to learn more about baptism, we'll be offering a one hour baptism class during each of our weekend services on October 13th & 14th. You can register online for a class HERE, or contact Missy Cheeseman with any questions mcheeseman@xroadschurch.org, 263-4633 ext. 293.

If you decide you are ready to take the plunge (literally), stop by our main room anytime between 2-4pm on Sunday, October 14th for an Open Baptism. Bring some clothes you can wet in and a towel and we'll get it done.

Also, if you'd like to read a bit more on this topic of evangelism, Glen recommends these resources:

Jim & Capser Go to Church: Frank Conversations about Faith, Churches and Well-Meaning Christians

Evangelism without Additives: What if sharing your faith meant just being yourself?

Vocab Test...

2007-09-12T08:57:00.000-05:00

One of the things I love about Crossroads is that we don't drop theological or religous terms just to sound impressive. (Propitiation anyone?)

This weekend we'll be talking about EVANGELISM. You might not hear that exact term, but it will be the topic of the day.

What does the word EVANGELSIM mean to you?

What associations does it carry for you?

Are there other words or phrases you use in place of this term? If so, why?

Refrigerator Rights...

2007-09-10T14:04:00.000-05:00

This weekend we talked about the idea that each of us was made to belong to other people.

As a practical picture of this, Glen talked about the concept of "Refigerator Rights".

Authors Will Miller & Glenn Sparks introduced this idea in their BOOKof the same title.

Will's BLOG defines the concept this way:

Refrigerator Rights Relationships are people who can open your refrigerator without having to ask permission. And when you are in their home you can do the same. They are people with whom you feel open, cared for and relaxed. They know the real you behind the facade.

Do you have anyone like this in your life? More than one person?

If so, how did you get to this level of belonging?

If not, why not? Are you afraid? Too busy? Something else?

Is there anything in your fridge worth eating anyway?

Belonging...

2007-09-06T09:34:00.000-05:00

This weekend we'll continue the "Yeah YOU" series with a teaching about belonging. The gist is that in Jesus' church, there is a place for everyone- the black sheep, the wallflowers, the introverted, those with low self-esteem or social anxiety, the shy,the abrasive, etc. etc.

This may feel strange to us, because life doesn't usually work this way. We're used to seeing the beautiful, privileged, talented and charismatic people receiving the golden tickets of inclusion while the rest of us are left with our noses pressed to the glass.

Or maybe that's just me.

What experiences have you had when it comes to beloging?

Where have you been accpeted?

Where have you felt like you didn't fit?

What made the difference for you?

Which Is Harder For You?

2007-09-02T14:00:00.000-05:00

This weekend Greg Chandler did an outstanding job of leading us in a conversation on forgiveness.

When it comes to this topic, which is more of a challenge for you?

Granting forgiveness to others?

OR

Asking for and accepting it yourself?

As you are willing/able, give us some insight as to why you answer the way you do.

I Heart You Tube

2007-08-27T07:43:00.000-05:00

Thanks to Anonymous who added a link to the video for Yahweh in the comment section of the last post.

Join my nostaglia by following this link to watch U2 circa 1983.

Make sure you watch at least until the white flag comes out.

U2 Gets Me...And 100 Million Other People

2007-08-23T09:40:00.000-05:00

I know they may be the band everyone likes (or likes to hate due to their mass appeal) but I've been a U2 fan since the first time I saw the "Sunday Bloody Sunday" video filmed at Red Rocks in 1983. The passion of Bono, the white flag, the Edge chiming away on guitar- it all got me.

Nearly 25 years later, their music still speaks to me.

This morning on a walk my Ipod dialed up "Yahweh" from their "How To Dismantle An Atomic Bomb" project.

The lyrics form a prayer that speaks about our desire to change:

Take these shoes
Click clacking down some dead end street
Take these shoes
And make them fit
Take this shirt
Polyester white trash made in nowhere
Take this shirt
And make it clean, clean
Take this soul
Stranded in some skin and bones
Take this soul
And make it sing

CHORUS:
Yahweh, Yahweh
Always pain before a child is born
Yahweh, Yahweh
Still I'm waiting for the dawn

Take these hands
Teach them what to carry
Take these hands
Don't make a fist no
Take this mouth
So quick to criticize
Take this mouth
Give it a kiss

CHORUS

Still waiting for the dawn, the sun is coming up
The sun is coming up on the ocean
This love is like a drop in the ocean
This love is like a drop in the ocean

CHORUS

Take this city
A city should be shining on a hill
Take this city
If it be your will
What no man can own, no man can take
Take this heart
Take this heart
Take this heart
And let it break

You can listen to a 30 second sample or purchase the song HERE.

Several things about these lyrics echo my own journey: a feeling like I don't quite fit into my soul, my deisre to let my life be used for God instead of selfishness and violence towards others, and a longing to completely surrender myself to Jesus.

How about you? Have you heard this song? Do any of the words feel true for you? Is there another U2 song that captures some part of your soul?

How Have You Changed...

2007-08-22T10:09:00.000-05:00

Ok- so it is easy to look at ourselves today and see the blemishes, weaknesses and shortcomings. (See everyone's comments on the last post)

Let's shift gears and be a bit more positive if we can.

How have you changed for the better?

Today (at 37) I would say I am becoming more open minded and financially responsible than I was in my earlier days. I'm also a better (but probably not great) listener and less stressed than I used to be. All thanks to the grace and work of God I'm sure.

How about you? Take a minute and talk about the changes and growth you've seen in yourself.

Yeah, YOU Can Change...

2007-08-20T13:24:00.000-05:00

Change is a huge business in our country (think teeth whitening, weight loss pills, wardrobe makeovers, the endless home renovation shows, Oprah, etc.).

Why?

We all have things in our lives that we want to change.

Me- I'd like to be taller, have a bit more hair, have more self-discipline, etc.

How about you?

What is one thing about yourself you'd like to change?

Click the comments link just below and spill it.

Yeah, YOU Can Find Hope

2007-08-17T14:17:00.000-05:00

This weekend we'll jump fully into a new teaching series called "Yeah YOU". Our hope is to let God get personal with us and to begin to accept the idea that the promises and invitations issued in the Bible don't just apply to "the world" or "everyone", but aslo to you and me.

This weekend we'll focus on the idea that "You Can Find Hope"- something many of us need right now. If you'd like to prepare a little ahead of time, read John 20 and pay attention to the stories of Mary & Thomas.

Also, feel free to add your thoughts, prayers and questions to the post about Nati Carter just below.

Too Close To Home...

2007-08-14T20:40:00.000-05:00

A couple weeks back I was given the assignment to teach about the idea that life is short.

Now I (and the rest of our church community) have been smacked in the face with this reality as we mourn the loss of Nati Carter. (Incidentally, three other families at Crossroads have also suffered losses in a similar time frame. We offer our condolences and prayers to the Bies, Heller and Smith families.)

The Carters are some of my best friends and I've spent more time crying in the last couple of days than I ever have as an adult. Many of you have also been touched by Bryan and Erika's love or friendship- or at the very least feel a deep sense of compassion for their loss.

So, we're all mourning, processing, shaking our heads at the senselessness, and smiling sad smiles at the outpourings of love, support and community.

Just wanted to create a little space here for us to process. Use the comments feature to share your thoughts, questions or prayers. As possible, let's try to avoid the cliches which may or may not be true (Ex. God must have had other plans for her.)

These past few days I'm finding that it is better not to have any words than to have empty ones.

I Know...

2007-08-08T14:57:00.000-05:00

There's a scene in the movie "Good Will Hunting" that makes me cry every time I see it.

Will (Matt Damon's character) is talking with his therapist- Sean (Robin Williams' character). They've finally developed a sense of trust when the subject of Will's childhood abuse comes up.

Sean looks him in the eye and says,
"You know that's not your fault."

Will shrugs, looks away and says,
"I know."

He says the right words, but you can see in his eyes that he doesn't really believe them. He's spent years blaming himself- wondering what he's done to deserve such treatment.

Sean steps closer,
"You know that wasn't your fault Will."

Another non-committal "I know" follows from Will.

Finally Sean catches his eye and tells him one last time what is really true. He didn't deserve to be treated as he had been.

Will breaks down as he lets the possibility sink inside his soul.

I wonder if Jesus could have a similar conversation with me and you.

"I love you", says Jesus.

"I know", we shrug.

"No, I really love you. Every time I think of you, I smile."

"I know", we mutter.

Catching our eye, Jesus continues,
"I love you.
I know who you are.
I know everything you've done.
I know your secrets.
The dark parts of your soul.
Your shame.
And I still love you.
Enough to die for you.
And live with you and in you."

"I love you."

How would we respond?

Those words are so familiar. But do we really believe they are true about US?

Are we ready to let the love and acceptance of God sink deep into our bones despite the nagging voices that tell us it is too good to be true, or can't happen for us?

Or is there something about that idea that we can't quite come to grips with?

The scene closes with Will sobbing as his friend, Sean holds him tight.

I'm picturing a similar scene with Jesus and me.

Maybe someday soon.

Empty Words? Cliche? Life Statement?

2007-08-07T10:34:00.000-05:00

JESUS LOVES YOU.

What's your first reaction when you hear those three words?

Are they so cliche that they don't mean anything?

Are they so basic that they are a given?

Are they so deep that they are hard to really get ahold of?

Are they the basis for your identity?

Something else?

Use the comments feature to give us your feedback.

Didn't we just talk about that?

2007-08-06T07:06:00.000-05:00

Ever find yourself in a conversation about a topic and then start noticing it in other places?

A couple weeks back we talked about how Moses appeared to Jesus in Luke 9:28-36. This event is usually called "The Transfiguration"- because Jesus' is transformed as his heavenly glory shows through. (Read the story if you are confused.)

This morning I came across some artistic depictions of this event. Moses is represented in most of them.

Thought you might want to TAKE A PEEK.

Remember That Essay...

2007-08-04T07:12:00.000-05:00

...you used to have to write on the first day of school?

The one with "What I Did On Summer Break" at the top of the page?

Each July we ask our lead pastor, Glen Schneiders, to step away from the busyness of his routine. We ask him to rest, get refreshed and to listen for how God might be leading our church community.

Although we miss his teaching and presence in July, we believe this month is essential for him and our church.

Glen is back in the saddle this weekend and will unpack what he sensed God teaching him over the last month.

Don't miss it!

First Person Perspective...

2007-08-01T12:23:00.000-05:00

Ever noticed that when someone is facing a life threatening situation there's always a well-meaning person who comes along and tries to talk about the time as a "blessing"?

Although there may be truth in the words, they usually ring hollow to the person who is in the middle of suffering.

But what if those words come from the person themself? Correspondant, columnist (and Berea, KY native) turned White House Staffer, Tony Snow has recurring cancer and sess it as a "blessing".

Read his perspective HERE, then feel free to share your thoughts and/or experiences.

Looking Up To Tammy Faye???

2007-07-31T12:46:00.000-05:00

Tammy Faye Messner (formerly Bakker) was one of those public, religious figures that illicited strong reactions from people. (Usually negative reactions for negative reasons.) After her passing, at least one columnist praised her.

Not for the way she lived in the public spotlight.

But for the way she died in it.

Click HERE for the full article.

Feel free to share your thoughts as well.

Life Is Short, Let's Review...

2007-07-30T07:23:00.000-05:00

This weekend our church community dealt with the difficult and personal topic of death. Cathy White stood before us and shared about the numerous reminders she's had in the past couple of years about how short life is. Let's be praying for her family as they continue to face health issues.

After each service I (Fred) had multiple people approach me and tell their own stories of facing cancer, losing children and walking alongside friends and family members who are staring their own mortality in the face.

Wow! I had a swirl of emotions going on inside of me. How about you?

Let's create a bit of space here for us to express ourselves. Use the comments feature to share your own journey, express your thanks to Cathy or say anything else that's been on your mind about this topic.

God Is Eternal...My Life Is Short

2007-07-27T09:40:00.000-05:00

This weekend we'll wrap the "Intermittent" series.

Catch a glimpse of where we're headed by checking out Numbers 20:1-13, 27:12-23 & Deuteronomy 34.

Another way to think about Holiness...

2007-07-26T10:33:00.000-05:00

Every day an email shows up in my inbox from the Miriam Webster folks teaching me a new word for the day. Most of the time, the word has more than one definition.

When we say that God is Holy, we often are trying to describe His flawlessness, His perfection, His purity. This is definitely an important part of God's Holy nature. Here's another part of the definition.

Holiness in the Bible literally means "Set Apart". Another way to think about this is that God is "Other" or completely different than we are. This idea of Holiness shows up when God says things like, "My ways aren't your ways, my thoughts aren't your thoughts...".

I think this understaning of Holiness plays out pretty well in the story of the Golden Calf and what follows. (Read Exodus chapters 19, 20, 32 & 33)

God tells the people not to make an idol.

They agree that they won't.

Then they do.

So God kills people (and/or tells Moses to kill people).

About 3000 of them for breaking their word.

Sounds harsh to me.

Where was the second chance for those people?

The "Next time you'll really be in trouble" speech?

God doesn't handle this the way that you and I would.

But then, you and I aren't God.

We make promises we don't mean, set boundaries we don't enforce, and rationalize why things like that are ok.

God is different. Holy.

When He says something, He means it.

When He makes a promises, He keeps it.

Last weekend Greg mentioned that we tend to focus on God's mercy and grace. Which is good, since we all need them pretty much everyday.

What if we thought more about His Holiness?

What if we thought more about a God who is not only perfect, but who means what He says?

Who consistently keeps His promises and expects us to do the same?

Would it change the way we thought about our choices and actions?

"Holy, Holy, Holy is the Lord God Almighty. Who was, and is, and who is coming." - Revelation 4:8

Again and Again and Again and...

2007-07-24T13:52:00.000-05:00

Ever come across a song that you just have to hear again? And again? And again?

Right now I'm listening to a song called "This Too Shall Be Made Right" for the 12th time in a row.

The song is off of Derek Webb's current project "The Ringing Bell".

Here are the lyrics:

people love you the most for the things you hate
and hate you for loving the things that you cannot keep straight
people judge you on a curve
and tell you you’re getting what you deserve
this too shall be made right

children cannot learn when children cannot eat
stack them like lumber when children cannot sleep
children dream of wishing wells
whose waters quench all the fires of Hell
this too shall be made right

the earth and the sky and the sea are all holding their breath
wars and abuses have nature groaning with death
we say we’re just trying to stay alive
but it looks so much more like a way to die
this too shall be made right

there’s a time for peace and there is a time for war
a time to forgive and a time to settle the score
a time for babies to lose their lives
a time for hunger and genocide
this too shall be made right

I don’t know the suffering of people outside my front door
I join the oppressors of those who i choose to ignore
I’m trading comfort for human life
and that’s not just murder it’s suicide
this too shall be made right

Wow! I'm usually drawn to prophetic voices like this, but even more so today. Maybe because I've spent the last week thinking about God's Holiness.

How will a Holy God respond to all the darkness that goes on in our world (and inside of us)?

What does it say about us if we can't mourn the same things that God does? Or do what is within our power to right injustice?

Although the lyrics are powerful, the combination of the mournful vocals and ringing acoustic guitar drives home the pain in the song to me.

Hear a 30 sec. sample or go big and drop 99 cents on the full deal at itunes: http://phobos.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewAlbum?playlistId=252648283&s=143441&i=252648361

If it doesn't speak to you at all, I'll refund your dollar.

Seriously.

Special Thanks...

2007-07-23T14:46:00.000-05:00

...to St. Luke Catholic Church in Nicholasville for graciously agreeing to host the video shoot we featured this weekend.

Our hope was that the physical setting would give the video a "holy" feel.

Do you find architecture helpful in creating a sense of awe and reference?

If not, what does that for you? Nature? Music? Quiet? Something else?

Warming Up...

2007-07-20T10:11:00.000-05:00

Physical fitness types always try to convince us that stretching is a good idea before exercise. (I think they're right by the way.)

Many of us are finding that a little mental and spiritual stretching during the week puts us in a better place for the teaching conversations on the weekend.

This Saturday and Sunday, Greg Chandler will help us catch a glimpse of the idea that “God is Holy…What I Do Matters”.

Limber up your mind and heart by reading Exodus chapters 19, 20, 24, 32 & 34.

Play Webster For Me...

2007-07-18T08:44:00.000-05:00

This weekend Greg Chandler will be prompting us to think about the idea that "God Is Holy".

Sounds right, but what does it mean? Holiness is one of those terms we use to describe God, but can we define it?

Take your best shot.

What are we trying to say about God by describing Him as "HOLY"?

What would you say to a 6 year old who asked you what "HOLY" means?

If it is true that God is "HOLY", what would that mean to/for us?

Give it some thought and post your insights, questions and ramblings by using the comment feature.

Didn't I just hear that??

2007-07-18T08:39:00.001-05:00

Coincidence or God trying to get my attention?

The guide to prayer that I use from time to time always ends with a blessing.

Here is this morning's:

"Live today in Christ's presence, remembering HE IS NEAR and will sustain you as you serve in his name. Amen."

May this be true for us today.

How Do You See God?

2007-07-16T10:36:00.001-05:00

This weekend Missy talked about something most/all of us have experienced at some point:

Wondering if God is real and if He is really with us.

In the book of Exodus, God gives people multiple visual reminders that He is with them:

Exodus 3:1-6 God speaks to Moses from a burning bush
Exodus 13:17-22 God leads Israel with a column of smoke by day and a pillar of fire by night.
Exodus 24:9-11 God allows 74 leaders of Israel to see (some part) of Him as they initiate the covenant.
Exodus 33:7-23 God lets Moses see His back and meets wtih him in a tent.
Exodus 34:29-35 Moses face glows after being with God.
Exodus 40:34-38 God continues to lead Israel with column of smoke, settling on the tent of mtg when stopped.

Does God still let people know that He is with them today?

Have you ever had an experience where you sensed God's presence with you?

What do you do/who do you turn to when you start to wonder yourself?

Tell us what you think. We'd love to hear your perspective.

Prayer Card Side 2:

2007-07-13T10:00:00.000-05:00

The other part of the prayer exercise was to continue asking for God's help and deliverance.

We were asked to finish the phrase: God I Need Your Help With

Personally, I asked God to:

Help us adjust to being a family of 4

Use our family to bless our neighbors and share God's love with them

Help me to stop worrying about what He gives others

Enable me to really listen to those around me

Your turn now. Be as specific or as general as you'd like. What are you needing from God today?

Prayer Card Side 1:

2007-07-12T12:40:00.000-05:00

Last weekend we talked about our need to remember how God has shown up and helped us in the past.

We each got a prayer card. One side simply read:

God, Thank You For What You've Done

On my card I wrote things like:

Bringing me to Crossroads
Giving me a wife and two kids that I don't deserve
A quick recovery from a recent health issue
New neighbors we are developing a friendship with
Money to pay for my recent car repairs

How about you? What has come to mind this week as you thought through all of the times God has listened and responded to your needs?

Tell us about it using the comments section.

Corrected Reading for this Weekend

2007-07-12T07:49:00.000-05:00

The E-Newsletter incorrectly listed the reading to prepare for this weekend.

It should be EXODUS chapters 24, 32, 33 & 34.

Welcome all lurkers!

2007-07-11T09:57:00.000-05:00

Just wanted to extend a warm welcome to those of you who have been dropping by the blog more recently.

Our stat tracker shows that about 1/3 of you are new on any given week. Thanks for taking the time to stop in.

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While you won't have something to say about everything you read, we want you to hear our invitation and have the know how to get it done.

Realizing that some of you may be new to the world of blogging, here's a quick tutorial on how to leave a comment after reading a post:

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Tell us who you are, why you are on the blog, or anything else you want.

And thanks for lurking!

Song from last weekend

2007-07-11T09:50:00.000-05:00

The song that wrapped around our prayer time is called "Deliver Me".

You can find it on the David Crowder Band's "ILLUMINATE" project.

Here are the lyrics:

Deliver me out of the sadness

Deliver me from all the madness

Deliver me courage to guide me

Deliver me Your strength inside me

CHORUS:

All of my lifeI've been in hiding

Wishing there was someone just like You

Now that You're hereNow that I've found You

I know that You're the One to pull me through

Deliver me loving and caring

Deliver me giving and sharing

Deliver me this cross that I'm bearing

Oh, deliver me

Jesus, Jesus how I trust You

How I've proved You o'er and o'er

Jesus, Jesus precious Jesus

Deliver me

Come and pull me through

Come pull me through

Remembering God's Help

2007-07-10T10:04:00.000-05:00

This weekend we explored just a few of the ways God helped Moses and the people of Israel as the exited (or exodused?) Egypt.

Exodus 16 marks the first time that God provides some bread (manna) for them. It isn't the last. For the next 40 years God ensures that they always have daily bread. From the outset of the manna God gives His people this instruction:

32Moses said, “This is what the LORD has commanded: Take two quarts of manna to be kept for your descendants. This way they will see the food that I gave you to eat in the desert when I brought you out of Egypt.”
33Moses said to Aaron, “Take a jar, put two quarts of manna in it, and put it in the LORD’s presence to be kept for your descendants.” 34Aaron put the jar of manna in front of the words of God’s promise to be kept there, as the LORD commanded Moses.

Why is this so important? God wants these folks, their children and succeeding generations TO REMEMBER how He came through for them.

Not a bad idea.

What if we got ourselves a jar too?

I threw that idea out this past weekend as a symbol. Now I'm thinking more literally.

What if I had a jar and everytime God came through I put something inside the jar to help me remember God's track record?

If we had somethting like that, we could pull it out the next time we were facing a situation and found ourselves questioning whether or not God would come through for us.

I guess I do have something like this- a couple of journals I've kept for the last few years.

Several times a year I crack them open and laugh about how much things have changed, how much they're still the same, and how good God has been in the midst of it all.

How about you?

Do you ever think about all of the ways God has helped you?

Have anything tangible that helps you remember?

So far my journals have been ok.

But now I really want a jar.

Guess I'd better find a big one.

Filling In The Gaps...

2007-07-07T07:54:00.000-05:00

Are you digging the book of Exodus? There's so much great stuff in there that we won't be able to cover it all in our weekend teaching.

If you want to read what we're skipping over this week, check out EXODUS 5-12.

If you like action, you won't be disappointed.

Something to think about...

2007-07-05T08:43:00.000-05:00

Last week I (Fred) got together with a friend who leads a campus ministry at UK. Knowing he'd want to talk about the upcoming fall ministry season, I asked him, "Is there anything you want me to think about before we connect?" It isn't that I didn't have anything else on my mind- I just wanted to get ready for a good conversation.

This weekend at Crossroads we'll get our second installment in the "Intermittent" series and will tackle the topic: "God Is Listening...I Need Help". Our teaching will flow out of Exodus 14-17.

Take a look at this section of the Bible if you want to get ready for our conversation.

And Another Thought...

2007-07-04T06:49:00.000-05:00

There's this little phrase that procedes Moses' murderous rage:

12 He looked all around, and WHEN HE DIDN'T SEE ANYONE he beat the Egyptian to death and hid the body in the sand.

Isn't it funny how our imagined anonymity can give us permission to do things we shouldn't and wouldn't do otherwise?

Unfortunatley, Moses was wrong about his stealth operation:

13When Moses went there the next day, he saw two Hebrew men fighting. He asked the one who started the fight, “Why are you beating another Hebrew?”
14The man asked, “Who made you our ruler and judge? Are you going to kill me as you killed the Egyptian?” Then Moses was afraid and thought that everyone knew what he had done.
15When Pharaoh heard what Moses had done, he tried to have him killed.

So...

Maybe we should assume someone is always watching via security camera, or will check our internet history, email, cell phone records or credit card receipts.

(Not to mention that God is always watching.)

If we can't do what we're about to do without telling someone- we probably shouldn't do it at all.

Bonus Features

2007-07-03T10:50:00.000-05:00

Believe it or not, almost all of our weekend teachers leave material on the cutting room floor. Although 30 minutes may seem like a long time to listen, we make choices each week about what we have time to share. Below are a few thoughts that got left out this weekend.

This past week I was thinking about Moses' attempt to end oppression in Exodus 2:11-15:

11In the course of time Moses grew up. Then he went to {see} his own people and watched them suffering under forced labor. He saw a Hebrew, one of his own people, being beaten by an Egyptian. 12He looked all around, and when he didn’t see anyone, he beat the Egyptian to death and hid the body in the sand.
13When Moses went there the next day, he saw two Hebrew men fighting. He asked the one who started the fight, “Why are you beating another Hebrew?”
14The man asked, “Who made you our ruler and judge? Are you going to kill me as you killed the Egyptian?” Then Moses was afraid and thought that everyone knew what he had done.
15When Pharaoh heard what Moses had done, he tried to have him killed. But Moses fled from Pharaoh and settled in the land of Midian.

Moses wanted to do a good thing. How did it end up working out so badly?

Maybe for some of the same reasons our attempts at controlling things go awry:

We have a good idea, but don't stop to ask if it is God's idea. Moses is impulsive and responds out of anger. He doesn't seek God, but expects God to bless his impulses. Are we giving God a chance to speak BEFORE we act?

We do the right thing in the wrong way. Ending slavery is good. Murder isn't. This isn't divine judgment, but human rage. The ends don't justify the means.

We don't time it right. Why doesn't God bless Moses' attempts to free Israel? The timing isn't right. The people of Israel aren't ready. The Egyptians aren't ready. And Moses- their next leader- isn't ready himself. 40 years later the situation ripens considerably. Do we trust God's sense of timing more than ours?

We think too small. Moses plan of killing one Egyptian at a time won't release a few million slaves. This problem will require 10 national plagues to fix. Where could God be thinking bigger than we are?

So this week, think of Moses as you face situations that beg for your intervention and control...and try not to kill anyone!

New Series Launches This Weekend

2007-06-28T10:22:00.000-05:00

This weekend we'll launch a new teaching series called "Intermittent". The title of the series is born out of an observation that our understanding of God seems to come via irregular moments of clarity. What's true about God is always true. I may even "believe" it is true. But, I really understand it when I experience for myself.

For example, this weekend we'll be discussing the idea that "God is God...I'm Not". Its the most basic tenant of Christianity. The funny thing is that while I believe that God is in control- a lot of days I live like I am. Not of the universe, mind you, just of my own life. I can maintain my illusion of control until something happens that I can't fix. Until I have an experience where I realize firsthand that I need someone bigger than me to step in. Then I really grasp the idea that I've "believed in" for a long time.

This study will center around some intermittent moments of spiritual clarity that Moses and the nation of Israel experience as God guides them out of slavery in Egypt. We'll be offering some suggested reading each week to help you prepare for the next weekend's teaching conversation. To prime the pump for this weekend, you may want to read the first four chapters of Exodus in the next couple of days.

We know that summer schedules can make our attendance at Crossroads feel a little intermittent. Let's view the next 5 weeks as a challenge to engage our church community consistently- either in person at one of the weekend gatherings, or via the mp3's on the web. Here's the breakdown of what we'll discuss in July:

6/30-7/1 GOD IS GOD…I’M NOT
7/7-8 GOD IS LISTENING…I NEED HELP
7/14-15 GOD IS NEAR…I’M NOT ALONE
7/21-22 GOD IS HOLY…WHAT I DO MATTERS
7/28-29 GOD IS ETERNAL…MY LIFE IS SHORT

Memory Test...

2007-06-25T09:55:00.000-05:00

This past weekend Glen laid out the four cornerstones our leaders believe God wants to build Crossroads on.

Can you name them?

Could you describe what they mean?

Take a shot in the comments section and no peeking in advance!

What is Crossroads All About?

2007-06-20T08:54:00.001-05:00

This weekend Glen take us back to the basics of why we exist as a Church Community. He'll talk about our overall vision and four cornerstones that anchor our life together.

But before that happens, we'd like to hear from you.

How do you usually describe Crossroads to others?

What do you think we are all about?

What is our heart? Mission? Vision?

Porn On Father's Day Weekend (Post Thoughts)

2007-06-18T15:07:00.001-05:00

Well, we officially survived our weekend of porn at Crossroads!

Now we'd love to hear what you thought about Porn & Pancakes and the Weekend Services.

Also, tell us if you had any conversations around this topic with friends, co-workers, family members, etc.?

Behind Closed Doors (Porn & Pancakes Breakfast Live & In Progress)...

2007-06-16T07:29:00.000-05:00

For those of you who couldn't make it or didn't meet the age/gender requirements, we thought you'd like to hear a bit of what went on and we learned:

- Grilled sausage tastes really good.

- Don't mess with Patrick Drury if you are the guest COMEDIAN. (David Dean- see below)

- The story of Abraham almost slaying Isaac can be used to frighten young children into obeying their parents. (the comedian again)

- It's ok to laugh if people fall on the ice, even if they have a compound fracture. (still the comedian)

- To liven things up at church- give the 4th graders Mountain Dew and Red Bull. (guess who)

- "I'm sweating like Paris Hilton at a purity conference." (my personal favorite line from the comedian).

- Lynn Buckles, The XXX Church Intern, and David Gillis are INCREDIBLY good sports. Briggs Cochran is also a good sport, but can't follow instructions. (based on interactive improv)

- Maybe guys have a hard time really laughing because of the unconfessed sin in their lives. (Great point by the comedian)

Then Craig Gross from XXX CHURCH got up to share.

- Porn is a $57 BILLION dollar a year industry- most of which happens via the internet.

- The internet has radically changed the accessibility of porn. No longer do you have to embarrass yourself by buying a magazine from behind the counter or going to a seedy video store on the wrong side of town.

- 75% of people view porn alone.

- Most people who are addicted to porn eventually escalate to something else: an affair, using an escort service, soliciting kids on the internet, etc.

- Where is the computer in your house? Is it in a place where you or someone else can be secretive?

- XXX Church gets tons of emails from kids who are more computer savvy than their parents and find out by mistake that their parents are looking at porn.

Craig shared SIX WAYS TO RUIN YOUR LIFE:

1. Fight temptation with willpower alone because you are strong enough. (Cause that works in every other area of our lives, right?)

2. Believe that just a little porn isn't that bad. FHM, MAXIM, SWIMSUIT ISSUES = Porn training wheels. The porn industry gets it, that's why they give you free samples. They know you'll come back for more.

3. Spend more time watching TV, less time in God's Word. Who needs that anyway? The average 13-18 year old spends 71 hours a week watching tv, movies, on the internet, playing video games or on the cell phone. Most people get in trouble with pornography because they get on the internet without a purpose. TIP: If you are married, go to bed as the same time as your wife. Many guys look while their spouse is asleep.

4. Wing it when it comes to your integrity. Just make it up as you go. Don't have a plan ahead of time.

5. Go solo. Who needs others? XXX Church offers accountability software so that you can let someone else in to help keep you accountable. Find it HERE. Do you really want help? It is out there for you, but it requires you not doing it yourself.

6. When you fail, just give up. "This is my lot in life. I'll never get over it." Even in our failures, God never leaves us and His love never fails.

NOTE: Craig will be sharing a different message at our weekend services (5:30 Sat, 9:30 & 11:15 Sun). Make it a point to catch one.

Need Some Resources???:

Every Man's Battle class starts on June 24th at 8:15 a.m. Contact Briggs Cochran
Every Young Man's Battle class to follow in August. Contact Scott Morgan or Kerry Tuttle.
Porn & Parents Discussion August 5th from 6-8 p.m. for all interested parents and teens on how to proactively respond to the issues. Contact Scott Morgan or Kerry Tuttle.
Every Woman's Battle class to be offered based upon interest. Contact Ann Sullivan for information and to express interest.
Help for Spouses class to be offered based upon interest. Contact Ann Sullivan for information and to express interest.
Do I have an addiction? Crossroads has seasoned counselors to meet one on one to privately discuss the issues. Contact Ann Sullivan for information.

A Prayer For Friday...

2007-06-15T08:52:00.001-05:00

For a few years now, some on our staff have been using "the blue book" as a devotional guide.

In addition to readings from the scripture and other Christian writers, there are written prayers to begin and end each day.

Today's opening prayer meant a lot to me and I thought it might speak to where some of us are as we try to wrap up a work week:

O God our Father, renew our spirits and draw our hearts to thyself, that our work may not be to us a burden but a delight;

and give us such love to thee as may sweeten all our obedience.

Help us that we may serve thee with the cheerfulness and gladness of children,

delighting ourselves in thee, and rejoicing in all that is to the honor of thy name;

Through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

Although it took some getting used to, I've really come to enjoy using prayers that others have written. It helps me say things to God that I want to say, but may not have thought of on my own.

If you have a couple of minutes, pray through the prayer above a couple of times. First, pray the prayer through slowly. I find that it helps to say it out loud if possible.

Then, go back through the prayer and pray each phrase individually. Say anything to God that the phrase brings to mind. Ex: "Renew our spirits"- God, I'm discouraged today. Brighten my attitude.

If you try this, post a comment and let me know what you thought.

If you want to learn more about "the blue book" click HERE.

Porn On Father's Day??? (Pre Thoughts)

2007-06-14T14:57:00.000-05:00

You bet! By now you've probably heard that Craig Gross from XXX Church will be with us this weekend. XXX is a ministry to both people in the porn industry and people who create the demand for the porn industry. Check out their site HERE.

Craig will speak to guys ages 11 and up at a breakfast (Porn & Pancakes) from 8-10am on Saturday morning. Tickets are $5 and will be available at the door.

He will also provide the weekend teaching at all of our services and will help us better understand the scope of the porn problem and some personal solutions.

Whether or not you think this issue has anything to do with you, we'd encourage you to be a part of things this weekend.

Now for your thoughts.

What are you thinking about our plans for the weekend and this topic? Has porn affected you or those you know and love?

Feel free to comment anonymously and honestly.

What did you learn about the Kingdom??

2007-06-11T08:24:00.000-05:00

This weekend we wrapped the Counterintuitive series. Over the past 10 weeks we've been focusing our weekend conversations on the Kingdom that Jesus described that doesn't work the way we expect it to.

Take a minute and give us some feedback:

What did you think of this study?

Did you hear anything that surprised you? Challenged you? Encouraged you?

Was there anything you learned that you are trying to hold onto? Live out?

Where are you like my dad?

2007-06-08T10:20:00.001-05:00

My (Fred's) dad is one of those guys who is a voracious learner. He knows a little bit about a lot of topics.

Drop him in a conversation with almost anyone and he'll probably be able to talk about their interests on some level.

Most people would walk away from meeting him thinking that he actually shares their hobbies and passions.

Here's the thing- my dad knows about ALOT of things he can't actually do. He can talk about farming, but never has. He can discuss construction, but couldn't build a house. He understands the stock market, but doesn't invest in it.

What about you? Where do you talk a better game than you play? Is there anything in your life that you know alot about, but don't do much with?

What Crowd Did You Hang With...

2007-06-06T10:22:00.000-05:00

...in high school?

I have vague memories of trying to decide whether to align myself with the preps, the jocks, the smart kids, the rockers, the break dancers or the skaters.

In the end I sampled friends, fashion & music from each group- occasionally popping my collar (cringe) and rocking parachute pants, skinny leather ties, and the Don Johnson jacket (not all at once) and listening to Led Zeppelin, Run DMC, Rush, Bon Jovi (cringe again) & Prince.

How about you? Who were your friends?

What did you do to fit in? (Music, clothes, slang, habits, etc.)

How Would You Answer These Questions...

2007-06-02T12:54:00.000-05:00

Q: When does Heaven start?

Q: What are you doing right now to prepare? (like the wise bridemaids from this weekends teaching in Matthew 25:1-13)

What's on your list...

2007-05-31T12:34:00.000-05:00

of things to do "someday"?

Here's a snippet of mine:
- Buy a classic ('66-'77) Ford Bronco
- Send writing proposal to publishers
- Take a retreat at a monestary
- Romantic weekend with my wife and NO KIDS
- Buy some new music
- Exercise

How about you?

What did you think...

2007-05-29T14:47:00.001-05:00

...of this past weekend's services?

Did God say anything to you through the teaching, music, wall demolishing, etc.?

Friends of Other Faiths???

2007-05-28T09:44:00.000-05:00

This weekend we explored the parable of the Good Samaritan. When Jesus made the Samaritan the hero in his story, he offended his Jewish audience in a couple of ways:

1. This guy was of the wrong race. He was a half-breed. Which tied in closely with offense #2.

2. This guy was of the wrong religion. The Samaritans practiced a modified form of faith from the Jews- ex. worshipping in their own temples.

Although Jesus doesn't say it, I like to imagine that these guys of different faiths became friends.

How about us? Do you know anyone of a different faith? Have any friends who actively practice a religion other than Christianity?

Have you had any conversations with them about the spiritual realm? What happened? Have you learned anything from them?

Removing The Walls...

2007-05-23T14:43:00.001-05:00

This weekend Glen will bring us a powerful teaching based on the story of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37). By the way, it might be a good idea to spend a little time there before Sat/Sun.

Glen will challenge us with the idea that while religion is usually used to justify building walls to keep "the wrong" people out- Jesus came to say that we need to remove the walls in our lives and let people in. Everyone is our neighbor- not just the people like us, or those who feel safe to us.

While I certainly don't want to steal any of Glen's (or God's) thunder, I think it might help up to think ahead about who we really keep on the other side of the walls in our lives.

Who are "those people" that you distance yourself from, feel uncomfortable around and avoid if possible?

As a step towards asking God to change our hearts, post your answers anonymously in the comments section.

Ripe With Paradox...

2007-05-21T06:38:00.000-05:00

Ever notice how often we all seem to contradict ourselves- making strong statements and then finding exceptions?

For example we might talk about how wrong it is to label or categorize people, then drop a line about wanting to connect wtih "people like us".

How do we know who is/isn't like us? We categorize and label people- including ourselves.

Often we don't verbalize what it means to be or not to be like us. But let's take a shot at it here using this phrase:
"There are two kinds of people in this world, people who __________ and people who don't __________."

The idea is that you think of a phrase that describes you and insert it appropriately.

Here's one for me: There are two kinds of people in this world, people (like me) who love "The Office" and people who don't get it.

Or maybe this: "There are two kinds of people in this world, people who can drive a stick, and people who can't."

Easy enough, right?

Now try one (or more) of your own in the comments section.

What Invitation Would You Never...

2007-05-18T14:00:00.000-05:00

...turn down?

A seat on millionaire's row at the derby?

Dinner at the Whitehouse?

A trip to Africa w/Bono?

A seat on the space shuttle?

An invite to the Oscars and the after parties?

Something else?

What's the best...

2007-05-16T15:10:00.000-05:00

...invitation you've ever gotten?

Free tickets to a game?

Backstage pass to a concert?

A chance to meet someone famous?

To go somewhere you've always dreamed of?

When my in-laws celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary they went to Alaska and asked my wife and me to join them. At one point we're in a cessna flying over glaciers to get to the base camp for those hoping to climb Denali (aka Mt. McKinley). I remember thinking, "I can't believe I'm here!"

How about you? What's the best invite you've ever received?

Becoming More Childlike...

2007-05-14T10:08:00.000-05:00

This past weekend we wrestled with Jesus' words in Matthew 18:3:

I can guarantee this truth: Unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.

Looking at a story of two people who go to pray in Luke 18:10-14, we discussed 3 changes we might need to make if we are going to approach God more like kids:

- Changing our POSTURE: Focusing more on God than ourselves

- Changing our WORDS: Acknowledging our sin and weakness

- Changing our REQUESTS: Asking God for help & mercy

Which of these feels most challenging for you & why?

What else did you hear God say to you through the words of Jesus this weekend?

What is it...

2007-05-11T08:09:00.000-05:00

...that made Jesus cherish children so much?

In his culture, they were more of an afterthought. Easy to see as Jesus' students try to deflect parents who bring children to see Jesus.

Instead Jesus waves the kids through like V.I.P.S..

What do you think attracts God to kids? Why are they so loveable?

Summer Is Coming...

2007-05-10T08:08:00.000-05:00

...and the kids are headed towards a couple of months of summer vacation.

Jealous? Me too.

Let's get nostalgic for a minute. What do you miss most about being a kid?

See, we CAN read your minds...

2007-05-09T07:50:00.000-05:00

From time to time, someone will approach one of our weekend teachers and say something like, "WOW! This morning it seemed like you were speaking right to me. Like you actually know what is going on in my life."

To which we usually reply, "We do. We have 24/7 video surviellance on every Crossroad's member. It's in the fine print of the membership form."

OK- so we aren't keeping tabs on you like the FBI, CIA, NSA or any of the other secret intelligence agencies. We don't hack into your computers, track your credit cards and bank accounts or follow you around with spy satellites. We've got something better- The Spirit of God.

Why is it that on any given week we can show up and feel like the teaching of the day is speaking into our hearts and lives? Not because our teachers are mind readers, but because the God who made us knows what we need to hear. His Spirit can speak through the Bible and through the words of average people to echo into our hearts and souls.

Has that ever happened to you? Here's a story from someone at Crossroads who had that kind of experience this past weekend.

I just wanted to let you know I was really touched by today's message. I've been dealing with alot of relationship issue's lately. I've gone through a breakup, having some family issues, and a problem with a friend. I sometime's felt that Christ has left my side. I missed the service last night, and was pretty sure I wouldn't make it this morning. However, I woke up early and something inside me kept telling me that I wasn't doing anything but sitting on the couch, and I needed to pick up my nephew and come on to Church.

I was ok until you started talking about the mustard seed and the yeast. At that point I was thought "has this man been reading my blog?" You see, I bought a townhome last Fall, and have no grass in my backyard. I meant to sow seed last fall, but of course didn't get around to it. This Spring a friend of mine came over, helped clean up the yard, and threw some seed down. Everyday I would go out back and look at this seed just sitting on top of the ground. I was growing more upset everyday thinking that grass was never going to grow in my backyard. I kept watering the yard and kept watching....And nothing! Then, came the nice sunny days a few weeks ago. We had baseball games, work, and school projects. I didn't think to look at the backyard once. Going on at the same time was my break up. I woke up last Sunday thinking how bad my life was, and that I was 32 never married wondering why God wouldn't answer one of my only prayers...For a husband and family. I was baking, and decided to open the house up. I opened the front windows, and went to open the backdoor and happened to look at the backyard. I couldn't believe what was before my eyes!!! It was grass, and lots of it!!! Of course, it's still thin because it's just beginning to grow, but what used to be nothing but dirt and sometimes mud was now green with just a few patches of dirt here and there. At that moment, I seemed to understand. It's really not my time, and it really is God's time. Not only with my grass, but with my relationships, including a future husband and family. The problem over the last week is I keep forgetting that eye opening experience, and was really down today expecting not to come to church. Now, I'm really glad that I did!

Anything For You?

2007-05-07T14:51:00.000-05:00

Did any of Jesus' words from the stories of the mustard seed and the yeast find their way into your head or heart?

Here's one person's feedback:

The message of this past weekend was unimpressive. I am using the word in the same manner you defined it.

It was so unimpressive that it caught my attention and I have been mulling and meandering around the mustard seed and the yeast since I left the service yesterday.

My girls and I have baked (had a small business) for years. Yeast is a very familiar entity to us. A mystery. I understand the science and theory of yeast, but I don't quite get the reality of it---the potential of transformation it contains. I am longing for God to work his yeast through me. Yeast must have the right temperature (too hot and you kill it, too cold and it won't be activated), and it must be fed (sugar, honey). My Father knows the exact measurements to produce a loaf in me.

I kept considering the germination time you spoke of--we mix our bread and then it must be left alone for at least an hour and a half. Sometimes it takes longer. I have warned the girls over and over to not bother the dough during this process. If you poke it, then you must start again. You must allow the dough to rise. Then it gets punched down and then it must be allowed to rise again.

Did God say anything to you this weekend?